
Your daughter is not her anxiety: How yoga can help her remember who she truly is

Does your daughter believe she can’t change her mental illness?
Maybe she’s been given a diagnosis - and now that diagnosis defines her. The label has become how she sees herself, and it’s in control of everything she does. Maybe even you now see her through the lens of that label, rather than for who she truly is.
She carries that diagnosis wherever she goes and builds an identity around it. She tells herself, “I am my anxiety. I am my depression. It’s not what I feel - it’s who I am.”
This is not the life you imagined for your daughter
Maybe she was told by the medical system that her brain has a chemical imbalance. Maybe she was told it’s her genes. Maybe she was told the only solution is medication. The diagnosis makes her believe it’s out of her control - that there’s nothing she can do to feel better.
Your daughter tried therapy, medication, more therapy… and maybe it helped for a while. But soon, things went back to how they were before. You both feel hopeless. Your daughter feels overwhelmed by life - struggling to join new activities, make friends, or find motivation.
This isn’t the life you dreamed of for your daughter.
You want her to thrive, to feel happy and confident - not to be weighed down by self-doubt or the belief that she’s not good enough.
Now imagine what could happen if nothing changes. Her mental health might continue to spiral. Your relationship could grow distant. She might completely shut down and as a result, your mental health begins to suffer. You can’t give her the calm, loving support she needs because your own heart feels broken.
You keep asking yourself, “Where has my sweet, happy girl gone? What did we do to deserve this?”
This might be the heartbreaking reality not far from now.
Why yoga is the answer
Everything we experience, both joyful and painful, is stored in the body.
Long after an overwhelming moment has passed, its effects can linger in posture, muscle tension, breathing patterns, even in how we digest food or respond to touch. When trauma remains unresolved, the body acts as if the danger is still there, keeping us stuck in survival mode.
Yoga helps create a body-mind connection that allows emotions to release. While the medical system focuses on the brain and talking therapies, yoga holistically addresses both the body and mind.
Modern neuroscience confirms that trauma doesn’t just live in our memories - it lives in our muscles, fascia, breath, and nervous system. Without engaging the body, those imprints can stay stuck.
That’s why somatic practices like yoga are essential. Through mindful movement and breath, yoga helps your daughter reconnect with her body, creating new experiences of safety, calm, and presence. Deep, slow breathing soothes the nervous system and signals to the body that it is safe again.
My personal reflection
I still remember the first time I cried in Savasana (the final rest pose of a yoga class). I was so surprised but I let the emotions come, trusting that my body knew what it needed.
The class had prepared my body and mind for deep relaxation, shifting me from the stress-response (sympathetic nervous system) to the calming parasympathetic state. That’s when the physical and emotional release I so deeply needed finally came.
What your daughter needs to feel better
When a girl goes through a painful experience and doesn’t know how to heal, it’s not the brain chemicals that are out of balance.
It’s her whole body.
The nervous system becomes dysregulated. Her body needs healing, love, and acceptance - not another pill to push the pain down.
That’s why I design yoga sessions specifically for the emotional world of teen girls - focusing on self-love, self-acceptance, and discovering their inner power. Each session is relatable, engaging, and confidence-building.
My classes are also fun, blending movement, mindfulness, and emotional well-being. The girls don’t feel like patients in therapy, they feel like themselves again.
The girls have much more control over their mental health than they think. Through yoga, teens learn to appreciate and love their bodies, to feel at home in who they are, and to realise that their body isn’t just a container for pain - it’s the path to healing.
I teach simple yet powerful practices they can use in everyday life - tools to grow resilience, build confidence, and find peace within.
If you’d like support, inspiration, and guidance in helping your teen daughter navigate anxiety and grow into her confident, authentic self, follow me on Instagram, Facebook, or YouTube. I’d love to connect with you there.
With kindness in thoughts, words, and heart,
💜 Romana